Memilih: Yang Baik Dari Yang Buruk

11 07 2014

Yuforia Pemilu masih riuh-rendah di Indonesia, bahkan teman-teman sesama WNI di luar negeri pun seakan tak mau kalah, ikut « berpesta » demokrasi, yang katanya paling seru dalam sejarah peta demokrasi di negara ini. Bagaimana tidak, karena 2 kandidat calon presiden Indonesia ini masing-masing memiliki kharisma yang kuat bagi masing-masing simpatisannya.

Saya adalah salah satunya, bukan warga negara yg cukup vocal mendukung salah satu CaPres, saya malah cenderung pasif menyuarakan « suara » saya. Cukup memantau saja, walaupun terkadang sampe membelalakan mata dan mengerenyitkan dahi. Yang jelas, saya sih berpegang pada prinsip ‘Rahasia’, jadi kalau ada yg bertanya: « Pilih siapa Ham? », jawab saya pasti: « Ada deh..Rahasia dong ».

Ini pun termasuk dengan ayah saya yg ‘berkampanye’ tentang capres nya kepada saya, yang kebetulan berbeda dengan pilihan saya. Lama kelamaan saya sampai suatu titik dimana saya bertanya, seberapa yakin ya saya dengan pilihan saya?

Beberapa pekan yang lalu saya punya kesempatan berbincang dengan seorang teman. Tentang bagaimana harusnya kita menyikapi pesta demokrasi. Kami berbincang santai tentang « The What If’s ». Menurut teman saya ini, pemilu kali ini memang berat sekali karena masing-masing sama-sama kuat, visi-misinya, basis simpatisannya, hingga cara berkampanye yang kadang juga membuat saya geleng-geleng kepala.

Inti pembicaraan kami yg bisa saya simpulkan adalah, bahwa kedua capres bukan dewa, masing-masing juga punya kekurangan, begitupun orang-orang dibelakangnya. Pemilu itu baratnya memilih yg baik dari yg buruk, bukan yg terbaik dari yg terbaik. Saya juga pernah skeptis terhadap skema politik di Indonesia, tapi saya percaya masih ada kok orang baik di negeri ini. Orang baik yang percaya hal baik sekecil apa pun dapat mengubah cara pandang kita terhadap dunia. Persis seperti tulisan saya tepat 5 tahun yg lalu, yg di inspirasi oleh kisah pribadi saya, malam sebelum pemilu 5 tahun yg lalu. (Pemilu 2009

Siapapun presidennya, sebanyak apapun « What If’s » yg bisa kita uraikan akan tetap menjadi what if bila kita, khususnya yg masih muda, menginginkan perubahan negara kita kearah yg lebih baik yg dimulai dengan revolusi mental masing-masing indvidu kita dulu.

Teman saya itu juga menambahkan, yang penting adalah siapapun pilihannya, sebisa mungkin cuma ada 1 putaran, karena anggaran negara yg besar itu akan lebih bermanfaat untuk hal lain daripada pemilu 2 putaran. Nah saya setuju sekali dengan yg ini…

 

 

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Love is Humble

8 09 2011

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When you are being asked, what is love? What would be your answer?

For me, love is humble

Be humble so that the heart may love. As simple as a prayer, love comes from simple things. But, sometimes we forgot how humble to love is. Afraid of losing and arrogance makes us greedy for love; and eventually the humbleness of love slowly fade away.

As the love between Hamid and Zainab blossoms through their humbleness of their heart. By the beach Zainab said to Hamid, “Hamid, bring my prayer with you through your pilgrimage to Mecca, my prayer is to be married to a person that I love (you), and that very person to love me in return,” quoted from a movie based on Buya Hamka, Dibawah Lindungan Ka’bah/Under the Grace of Ka’bah (1978).

Hamid accept his banishment from the village and from people that he love without fear, Zainab waits with courage for Hamid’s return until death do their parts. Zainab and Hamid never unite as lover not because of complexity of the world around them, but the love that no longer humble from people around them.

“God, the Most Grace and Merciful, under the grace of Holy Ka’bah, in the house of God where I lift my hands and pray for your blessing. To whom should I ask for mercy but You. There’s nothing I can hold on to but You, no door shall I close for Your door is always open. Grant me serenity for I to be in Your embrace; to be with people that I love that gone to You before me. O God, for You are the Almighty and to you we shall return…”

Love (prayer) that Zainab and Hamid believe till deaths do their part.

From this novel and film, I understand better that to love is to be humble. Humbleness keeps love live eternally inside our heart, even distance apart. Love is humble and will always be.





Cinta Itu Sederhana

8 09 2011

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Bila ada yg bertanya, apa itu cinta? Apa jawaban anda?

Buat saya cinta itu adalah sederhana.

Kesederhanaan hati untuk saling mengasihi. Sesederhana sebuah doa, cinta datang dari hal yg sederhana. Terkadang kita lupa akan kesederhanaan cinta. Kekhawatiran akan kehilangan dan keangkuhan hati membuat kita serakah akan cinta; dan akhirnya terlupakanlah kesederhanaan sebuah cinta.

Seperti saat cinta antara Hamid dan Zaenab mulai bersemi. Ditepi pantai Zainab berkata kepada Hamid, « Hamid, aku titipkan doaku bila kau pergi haji. Doaku menikah dengan orang yg aku cintai dan orang itu juga mencintai aku. »  Seperti kalimat yg saya petik dari film yg diangkat dari novel karya (alm.) Buya Hamka, Dibawah Lindungan Ka’bah (1978).

Cinta sederhana Hamid terhadap adat-agama membuatnya ikhlas dijauhkan dari orang-orang yg dicintainya, cinta sederhana Zainab menunggu dengan ikhlas sang kekasih hati yang diusir dari kampungnya hingga ajal menjemput. Zainab dan Hamid tidak pernah bersatu, bukan karena kerumitan dunia disekeliling mereka, namun karena cinta yg tidak lagi sederhana dari orang-orang terdekat mereka.

 » Ya Rabbi, ya Tuhanku, Yang Maha Pengasih dan Penyayang, di bawah lindungan Ka`bah, rumah Engkau yang suci dan terpilih ini, saya menadahkan tangan memohon kurnia. Kepada siapa lagi yang saya akan pergi memohon ampun, kalau bukan Engkau ya Tuhanku! Tidak ada suatu tali pun tempat saya bergantung, lain daripada tali Engkau, tidak ada pintu yang akan saya tutup, lain daripada pintu Engkau. Berilah kelapangan jalan buat saya, saya hendak pulang ke hasrat Engkau; saya menuruti orang-orang yang dahulu daripada saya, orang-orang yang bertali hidupnya dengan hidup saya. Ya Rabbi, Engkaulah Yang Maha Kuasa, kepada Engkaulah kami sekalian akan kembali….. »

Cinta (doa) yang dibawa oleh Zainab dan Hamid hingga akhir hayat mereka.

Dari novel dan film ini saya semakin mengerti untuk mencintai dengan sederhana. Kesederhanaan membuat cinta hidup abadi dalam hati, walau sekalipun jarak memisahkan. Cinta itu sederhana dan selalu sederhana.





Bedhaya, Dance As Old As Time

22 07 2011

Dance. A word that has been exist as old as time. A tradition that has always been a part of human existence since long time ago.

And in particular, Javanese tradition is closely related to dances. Every dance has its own grace. It has deep meaning to every movement of fingers to every costume ornaments wore by the dancers’; it symbolized emotions, history, mystery, and even philosophy.

From few Mataram dances (Yogyakarta and Surakarta), some are consider sacred, where it performance are strictly by the presence of the Sri Sultan or Sri Susuhunan, and only selected relatives of the palace (Abdi Dalem) who can perform it.

Bedhaya. The oldest form of dance in every Mataram kingship. Dated to the court of Sultan Agung of Mataram (1613–1645), however the existence of the dance is not clearly documented until the late 18th century.

We’ve been told that Bedhaya has it deep mystical meaning to the Sultans, epitomized the elegant (alus) character of the royal court, and an important symbol of the ruler’s power. Bedhaya is a transliteration of the relationship of the first king of Mataram, Panembahan Senopati with the Goddess of the South Sea, Nyi Roro Kidul.

photo courtesy of kompas.com

And ever since Panembahan Senopati divided the kingdom into Surakarta and Yogyakarta, both palaces remain to perform the Bedhaya to each court’s special occasion until now. Always performs in odd numbers of dancers, usually 9 (nine) females, although during some period in the nineteenth century, the dancers in Yogyakarta were young men dressed as women. The combination of characteristics of both sexes was thought to have a special spiritual power. Formerly, the nine dancers were the creation of a deity, who were brought to life, and offered the dance to their maker in gratitude. Latter, the dance was created when Kangjeng Ratu Kidul fell in love with the Sultan, and danced the Bedhaya for him; the nine dancers in the modern dance represent the spirit of the goddess.

It sacredness, both the song and the dance associated with it, it is only allowed to be rehearsed every 35 days. All rehearsals, and especially the performance, must be accompanied by offerings; the dancers must fast and undergo ritual purification; they must be in bridal dress and cover the upper part of their bodies in turmeric; and when the text is copied, a few intentional mistakes are inserted to avoid copying a sacred text literally. This is all because during any performance or rehearsal, the deputies of Ratu Kidul are said to be present.

To both palaces, Bedhaya has different forms; Bedhaya Ketawang in Surakarta (Solo), and the Bedhaya Semang in Yogyakarta. In Surakarta, the dance continuously performed at least once a year to commemorate the ascension of the current Susuhunan(prince) of Surakarta. Whilst in Yogyakarta, some Bedhaya dances are kept exclusively to its close relatives and an invitation to anyone outside of the inner circle of the court is a considerable honour.

As the courtesan of Yogyakarta palace from my grandma, R.Aj. Soemartijah, I am well remembered that she took me to the Siti Hinggil (Grand Hall) in 1992 to attend one of the royal occasion and one of the Bedhaya performed there. Latter, I found out that the dance called Menak Nitih Garuda. This dance is taken from The Menak Cina Chronicle (The Ballade of Amir Hamzah), about the battle of two female warriors riding Garuda (mythical creature half human half bird), Dewi Kuroisyin (Persian princess) against Dewi Widaningrum (Chinese princess). This dance was created by HM Sri Sultan Hamengku Buwono V (1820-1855) himself in The Royal Court Kraton Yogyakarta.

 





Thanking the Laughter You Bring

9 03 2011

This is a story about a dear friend. A friend that always cheer my gloomy day since 10 years ago. And ever since, he always become a dear friend of mine.

We’re not always agree one to each other, but we always share some stories of life. Laughter and tears, high and low, ups and downs. But surely, when we’re together, he always managed to made both of us burst in laughter. Small stuff but somehow it become so funny we laugh our lungs out.

He once heard my recently-favorite-song made into parody on the radio, and earlier today he twitted the lyric of the parody (in javanese), it was Katy Perry’s Firework. Tonight, as i drove back home from office, that favorite song of mine played on my iPod, though it was the original version, all the javanese lyric parody keep running on my mind. I just can’t stop smiling throughout the journey back home.

He never fail to make me smile for sure. Now i realize that i never alone, there’s always my dear friends to make me smile, support me, be my shoulder to cry (though i should say: be my lungs to laugh). Thank you Gregorius Danang Prasetyanto.

Your friendship will always be my treasure. Thanks for always sharing the laughter, and made smile become things that brighten up my gloomy days.

« You don’t have to feel like a waste of space
You’re original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow, »

Katy Perry’s Firework





Monster out of Me

5 05 2007

I’m a monster out of me. In the dark I lie down, inhaling the rage as every beat of my heart is anger.this monster is ready to break it cage at anytime.

His anger betrayed from sorrow and loneliness and despair. His companion had fleed, left him bleeding inside.

Unfinished and dissolved by the time.

I, the devil and the angel wish no lose to these combat of solitude, whilst togetherness suffer me too. Stars and wind whispers, let the moon change by the sun and so does it other way.

Time will heal and tell me the truth. As time masters the cycle of life, yet the key to reveal the door of future as i reach it.

Sometime soon, when I am laid in earth.





The Past, The Present, and The Future

12 09 2006

Tonight, after what happen earlier this evening; I hope we learn about something. That life’s goes on. I don’t want to preach you about life or love. Because what we are in this world is learning what is love and how it’d cherish this life. With the past, we learnt that some step we made was wrong, and sometimes it hurts and painful. It taught us to be cautious and careful. But that’s not all. If it makes us scared to stepping the future, then it mean we haven’t learn the wisdom of the past.

The wisdom of the past time takes us to the joyful of present time. A wise man ask to a boy: “Do you know why we named it present.?” The boy stares at the wise man innocently, signing that he don’t know. And the wise man answered, “Because it’s a gift from God for us to enjoy; of knowing that we have learnt the wisdom of past and willing to step to the untamed future, what ever it may come.”

The futures reveal nothing but haziness. Don’t live on yesterday; just go where the present time takes you and whatever the future brings you. Hurts, that’s the reason. But have you ever think that you’re not alone? You’ve been hurt, I’ve been hurt; everybody does. Never been easy to forgive, but the hardest thing is to forget.

My pain, taught me to live in present time, forgive the past and forget the future so that no anger I will carry for my next day. And the reason I keep my past as my past is that I learnt that living in the painful memories would only sacrifice my dream that would only abuse myself. I want you to be happy of what you are now for a better days to come. And your love needed to understand that.

No matter how big the love is, it’ll destroy if there’s only one party who trust other. While other keep denying the truth of believing. I am no angel. I’m just me. I’m no perfect. But I’ll do my best to keep you happy. You’re all that matters in my life. You’re all I need, and its evidence.

If there’s a thing that will make me happy, then it would be you.

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